Children As Messengers

Every time my former spouse wants to change the visitation schedule, she has our children call and ask. Isn't this wrong?


When your former spouse puts your child in the position of a messenger, that child carries a responsibility that he or she should not have to bear. That, in effect, forces the child to take on the adult role because the parents are acting like children. Suggest to your former spouse alternative ways to communicate - e-mail, voice mail, letters, or a phone call. Even using a mutual friend to pass along communications is better than having your children do it. If your former spouse continues to use the children as messengers, a court can order an alternative method of communication.