Children and Sporting Activities

Our children want to attend their regular sporting practices and games, but some of those events take place during my spouse's visitation days. Doesn't my spouse have to take our children to these activities?

This question illustrates the importance of co-parenting. Talk to the other parent about the problem and try to work out an informal solution if you can. If necessary, talk to your attorney, but keep in mind that this type of issue will come up repeatedly as you and the other parent work together to raise the children. Work on give-and-take. Offer compromises.

If you have to go to the Judge, you should talk to your attorney about the realistic outcome of such an action before you file a motion. As a general rule, do not schedule any activities during the other parent's time with the children, unless you and the other parent have agreed to such activities Do not involve your children in the problem.

In most circumstances, a parent will have the choice of whether to take the children to the practices or games during their periods of possession. Although some courts will allow children some continuity in a limited number of activities and, therefore, order both parents to take them to certain events, many times a parent will simply have the choice of whether to take the child to the activity. If the event is important to your child, then discuss the activity with your former spouse before signing your child up for it. Also, limit the number of activities so that the other parent will not feel as though his or her entire time with the child is spent going to one activity after another. Often, a parent will see this as an attempt by you to interfere with the relationship they have with your child.