What can I do to make to make this process work out well for everyone?
Take good care of yourself and your children. Be aware of the effects of stress and do as much as you can to prevent stress from taking over your lives.
Remember to have fun with your children. Eat healthy meals. Exercise. Make sure they and you get a good night's sleep. These stress busters will help your children cope with the upcoming changes.
Be Optimistic about a better future for everyone. Optimism is contagious. If you cope well with the changes, your children will likely follow your lead.